Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy by Kacy Ames, LCSW

During my first year of postgraduate training in Family and Couples Therapy, my supervisor said something so simple and yet so surprising that it permanently shifted my sense of self.  I was working with a couple that had been struggling with trust, closeness and commitment.  My supervisor advised “Kacy, think about romantic love in terms […]

Attachment Theory Explained by Kacy Ames, LCSW

Nearly 11 years ago, I presented a workshop at the KAAN conference about navigating attachment, intimate partner(s) relationships and love.  It was an extremely memorable experience, predominantly because I went into labor (5 weeks early) on the car ride home.  Everything ended up being fine but I will forever associate these themes of attachment with […]

I Want To Be A Father

“What do you want to be when you grow up my love?,” I ask my little one. He says without hesitation, “I want to be a father.” Too often in adoption, we can be very birthmother centered, and I am guilty of that too.  She has been a presence almost all of my adult life.  […]

Adoption: Adverse Childhood Experience Explained with Dr. Chaitra Wirta-Leiker

IAMAdoptee sat down with Chaitra Witra-Leiker and had the opportunity to more deeply understand the Adoption and Adverse Childhood Experiences Score. To learn more about Chaitra, you can find a full professional bio on our About page. Darci Siegel: My name is Darci Siegel, I use she/her pronouns, and I do Content Development with IAMAdoptee. […]

Dunbar Number

The Dunbar number suggests that most people’s brains can handle 150 casual relationships, 15 close friendships and 5 best friends. – Frost Science Museum, Miami FL I am quick to smile, it’s a nervous habit and the most comfortable of masks.  But.. I cry when I get angry I cry when I am sad I […]

Therapy Interventions

Now you have some working knowledge of how to find a therapist and the kinds of therapists that practice (click to read Seeking Counsel).  There are many different approaches therapists use as forms of intervention and modalities of work.  Oftentimes, therapists are eclectic and use a variety of different techniques and approaches to getting to […]

Untitled Thoughts by Joy Lieberthal Rho, Co-Founder of IAMAdoptee

How do we feed ourselves when we were raised on pasta and pizza? It’s a facetious question, because I have nothing against pasta or pizza, but I distinctly remember that pizza was an acquired taste and I never crave pasta the way I crave rice.  I still hold my memory of pizza for the first […]

Adoptees of South America creates community!

IAMAdoptee meets Adoptees of South America.  We are so thrilled to have a chance to speak with Maria and Megan, adoptees from Ecuador, and learn about their ambitious goal of creating community for intercountry adoptees born in South America.  Our contributor Emma, sat with them to hear all about them and their project! Adoptees of […]